One interesting and unique situation that Bonnie Eaker Weil addresses in her book Financial Infidelity is when the woman earns more than the man.
I've earned more than the hubby. Actually, being a year older than the hubby and having skipped grades, I went an entire year earning a full time salary while he was in school (while we were dating). He would joke and call me his sugar momma but I know it was challenging for him to deal with.
What are some of Bonnie's tips for dealing with this?
Women should watch their pronouns, using 'our' money, rather than 'my' money. I do this right now with the novels. It is 'our' writing acknowledging his financial and time sacrifices (and the countless cans of beans he's eaten).
They should be open and not neglect talking about work. Work is a huge part of the day. To not share that is to keep a large chunk of yourself back.
They should work as a team, not controlling or making unilateral spending decisions.
Men should have a guilt-free spending fund. They should focus on the positives. See her making more money as increasing his lifestyle.
She suggests that couple take turns paying the bills or pay them together. Okay, she must not have met my hubby. He may glance at the bills (especially 'cussing at the one for the internet) but the actual mechanics of paying the bills? Not interested. Thank goodness for auto withdrawal.