Last week, Dr. Lona Smith, Author of Help! He Wants Me to Sign a Prenup, discussed the benefits of the prenup (deciding in advance custody of Fern The Second) but when should we bring the subject up? On the first date? When he's on bended knee, ring in hand? At the Altar?
Dr. Lona Smith: "It is very important to discuss a Prenup early in the relationship before feelings get involved and when the man will want to be as fair and even as chivalrous as possible; however, the key is creative presentation.
Look at the 2 following scenarios:
WRONG
I have an over flowing bank account and I know we are on our 3rd date, but I need to know right now that you will sign a Prenup if we plan to marry one day.
CORRECT
Here is your pomegranate martini- do you want to play a game? I ask you a question and then you ask me a question. #1 Are you a dog or cat person? #2 What is your most embarrassing high school moment? #24 What are your thoughts on Prenups?"
Okay, there was no way, no how, this gal was discussing early on in the relationship her most embarrassing moment. Lucky for me, the now hubby never asked, assuming, I guess, that the embarrassing moments I had with him were the "most." LOL... little did he know...