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Well women are certainly no strangers to "faking it". We've faked our hair color, our cup size, hell we've even faked fur. I couldn't help but wonder: Has fear of being alone suddenly raised the bar on faking? Are we faking more than orgasms? Are we faking entire relationships?

Is it better to "fake it" than be alone?

Personally this has been a fear of mine. Maybe it was because I was raised an only child by a single mother, who knows. All I know is that I see that most women struggle with this fear, whether they are in a relationship or not. Nobody wants to be lonely, although I disagree that you are nobody 'til somebody loves you. Fear of being alone, or maybe the longing for security drives many women to make poor decisions when it comes to relationships and money.

I married young, maybe because I felt like I was in love, but probably more because I didn't want to be alone. It took me a couple years and a lot of courage to make the decision to be alone as a single mother. It has taken me some time to be okay with being alone. Some days it's more difficult than others, but over all, I know that I have to be okay with it, because we are all going to be alone at some point in our lives. Better to be alone and healthy than in an relationship that is unhealthy, ya heard?

I love the conclusion that my girl Carrie came to:

I decided instead of running away from the idea of a life alone, I'd better sit down and take that fear to lunch... So I sat there and had a glass of wine alone. No books, no man, no friends, no armor, no faking.